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10 Things I Hate About Online Dating

By brian, on June 25th, 2010

About a year ago I signed up for a free online dating site called Plenty of Fish, also known as POF. While searching through the profiles that all women age 20 – 36 within the greater Los Angeles area made for themselves, I started to notice an alarming number of similarities or recuring themes. The following is my list of peeves.

1. The Interests

Everybody likes music, and art, and traveling, and the outdoors, and sunshine, and having fun. These are not things that give any insight as to who you are as an individual. I wouldn’t even really describe them as interests but more just standard features that come with any human being. It’d be like shopping for a used car and coming across an ad that says “Great vehicle, runs on gasoline, tires are round, has matter and density.” I still don’t know the make, model, year, milage, accident history, horse power etc. If anything I view the vaugness as a trap into buying a lemon.

2. I’m shy but I’m not shy

A lot of girls can’t decide on what they are. “I’m shy but I can also be very outgoing.” “I’m just a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl that loves to get dressed up and go out too.” “I’m a realist but I have a bit of a hopeless romantic side. . .”       When filling out your “about me” section you should use a “Which of the following best describes me?” approach. Like an SAT question, choose the letter that best answers the problem, don’t fill in every bubble.

3. The Nerd

Some girls like to pick out one non-airhead thing they do and then call themselves a nerd. The degree they give themselves can vary from: full on nerd, half nerd, a bit of a nerd. It’s always juxtaposed with some characteristic indicating that they are still attractive. For example: “I’m a nerd that likes to play scrabble and do crossword puzzles, but I also love doing girly things like getting my hair and nails done. . so I guess that makes me 1/2 nerd and 1/2 beauty. . . .”    For the record, the occasional board game does not qualify you as a nerd, or as you are really trying to imply, smart. This would be like me playing a game of HORSE and then calling myself a jock.

4. “My friends describe me as . . .  ”

A jackass? There is nothing cute about having your friend write your profile for you. You are not being modest you are being pathetic. These always end up reading like a eulogy in the present tense. “Sarah is a fun loving, good spirited person who can always put a smile on  everyones face.”

5. The List

Many girls think they are being clever by making one word lists of arbitrary things they like. It usually comes in the format of : trivial, trivial, trivial, serious (repeat) .  . . Might look something like this: “I love rainy days, pringles, blue jeans, my family, Leonardo Di Caprio movies, orange tic tacs, diet pepsi, feeding the homeless . .  . ”

6. The Art Chic

Her taste is far more sophisticated than yours. She would list her favorite bands but you’ve probably never heard of them. She’s looking for a guy that can go on long rhetorical rants about how fucked up the system is. As Adam Carolla would say “You can tell she is artistic and creative because she has art that other people created tattooed  on herself.”

7. “I like a guy that can make me laugh. . .”

really?

8. “No Drama, No Bullshit”

I have come up with an easy way to find out who the biggest slut is in a group of girls without running the risk of contracting herpes. It’s whoever uses the word “slut” the most often. This algorithm can be applied to many other things. You feeling the need to address the issue of not wanting “drama” or “bullshit” leads me to believe that you are in fact a drama queen full of bull fucking shit.

9. The Smokin Hot Friend

Does not need to be in all the pictures you post on your dating profile. This is essentially shooting yourself in the foot. Your caption could say “Thats me on the left, next to the girl that looks like she could be a model.”  Beauty is relative and when guys see a 6 standing next to an 8 we’re going to go with the 8. Find yourself some uglier friends to take pictures with or learn how to work a little photoshop magic.

10 . All the aforementioned girls that never wrote me back!


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About the Author brian

I am a freelance illustrator working in Los Angeles.

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  • B

    Im curious what you put in your profile and which picture you used. You say all your peeves but what would be in a good profile?

  • Brian

  • steve abughazaleh

    hey whats up brian, just have to say the interests in your blog is probably one of the most true and clever things ive read!!! perfect!!!!

  • Brian
  • http://daveaxe.com Axe

    Brilliant. Did you ever read my old MySpace page? I’ll try to dig it up.

  • http://daveaxe.com Axe

    Whoops, I’m a fucking retard. Of course you haven’t seen my old MySpace page. I thought Luke wrote this one. I’ll still try to dig it up.

  • http://hotmail Dave

    Ha, ha. I’ve been looking for a forum like this. I’m an Internet dating vet. I love it. One of my big things are the pictures. Some of these pictures women post are absolutely horrifying (unflattering outfits, weird faces, their tongues out, um picking the nose of their friend). You wonder if these women have any friends to qualify the pictures before posting them. I also go with what I call “the party rule.” If at least two of the pictures are of a girl at a bar or club or with drink in hand, I’m e-mailing them, because they will be getting drunk, and I will be getting laid. I also “prey” on the ones in their late 30′s to early 40′s who have never been married. It’s been my experience that some of these women can actually be attractive, and more importantly they are REALLY in need for a stiff pecker. I’ve had at least 20 dates where 15 minutes in the girl is already holding my hand, or being touchy feely in some other way. Where do you think that is headed? Probably with me dropping a load on one of their ass cheeks.

  • Ali

    Dave,

    Sounds like you purposely go for the gals who perform the way you want. Like you said, you are a ‘veteran.’ You also give the internet dating sites a bad name because there are guys like you out there. I’m so glad I only have ONE pic of me in New Orleans or I’d be hunted by the scary likes of you! If you continue to follow your party rule you’ll continue to have a meaningless life, and not be connected with anybody. I sure hope that when I begin dating again, I stay clear of men like you….any other ‘red flags’ I should look out for? There are A LOT of guys out there just like you…that’s what makes me pause about dating again. Good luck in your search for meaningless sex. You’re missing out.

  • http://hotmail Dave

    Ali,
    Thanks for your response. I used to live in Chateau Estates in Kenner, and graduated from St. Martin’s high school. Chill out, first off. I believe in being completely honest. I’m not ready to settle down yet. Did you know that I was engaged in 2003? The girl was beautiful, had great qualities, but she was bi-polar. She was not that that sexual because of her medications, and I became more unhappy as time went on. I was getting to the point where I was ready to go out and take care of my needs with other women. Rather than doing that, I was upfront and honest with her, and I broke it off BEFORE deciding to cheat. Are you also aware that EVERY woman that I agree to go out with is told upfront that I am not looking for anything serious? I believe in telling woman this from the get go, to avoid issues later on. Women have choice, Ali, and it takes two to tango, so don’t get mad at me, if women make the CHOICE to hook up with me even after I have told them that I am not ready to settle down.

  • anne

    pahahaha. brian this is hilarious! very witty enjoyed it :)

  • Dustin

    Dave, i salute you…

  • http://hotmail dave

    Thanks Dustin. This isn’t the 50′s where women would wear a suit of armor around their vaginas, and wait until marriage to engage in coital relations. This is the twenty-first century, and women are just as horny as men. I celebrate their liberation and freedom, as all men should. I’ve been used for sex before. The girl ate me up and spit me out, but it didn’t bother me, because when you have sex with the same girl 46 times in 3 weeks, it gets a little robotic.

  • http://plentyoffishtales.com Ed

    Great commentary on the state of internet dating… funny and true! I really love the comment about the “smoking hot friend” which is so true. The worst is when there are 4-5 photos on a profile and all of them have multiple people in them. It’s like a guessing game… and if you guess wrong you are stuck with the ugly one!

  • Steve

    OMG. I have actually started writing down some of these observations to post on my profile because it’s just so prevalent on these sites and then you have to go ahead and ruin it for me….good job!! That is soooooooo true. The quirky little sayings that these women use is nauseating (I see the glass as half full, I’m not looking for someone I can live with, just someone I can’t live without and on and on).

    I also enjoy the pictures these women put on their profiles of them with some other dude. What is the message there? The thing that bothers most are the women that think their slick by putting down “average” for body type and the pictures are nothing average about them. If your only seeing a face shot…99% of the time their a whale. It also just shows the level of dishonesty these women have and apparently they think that if the two of us actually did meet, I would not notice their gigantic. I’m not looking for a model, but eventually their gonna have to go out on the field and play the game….what then???

    The bottom line is that the more choices you give someone, the more likely their going to look for perfection and think that this perfect creature is out there for them. This leads to unrealistic expectations and eliminating countless numbers of potential mates.

  • http://hotmail Dave

    Piggy-backing on what Steve said, early in my match career when I lived in Atlanta and was filled with on-line dating naivete, I met this girl who only had head shots. She stated, slim/slender. When I went to meet her she was 5 foot 2, 2 bucks and change. She was a human bowling ball. Actually, I was cool about it though. Um, yeah, our waitress was also her cousin, and she ordered everything on the appetizer menu. She pretty much knew she had pulled one over on me, without saying it, so she suggested introducing me to one of her friends (MUCH better looking and thin), after showing me several pictures of her on her camera phone. I didn’t end up paying for any of the meal, either, ended up having some fun with her friend, so it ended up as good as it could have, considering she lied about her appearance.

  • http://ourthursday Mark

    This blog/comments are absolutely hilarious! Im on PoF and this is actually something that a girl wrote in her profile.. “I’m outgoing and very personable, and, while you may not believe it after first meeting me, I am actually pretty shy.” How can you be both outgoing and shy?

  • http://hotmail dave

    I’m on match.com, and I’m convinced that every woman who signs up is sent a free copy of Eat,Pray, Love because that is almost every woman’s “last book read.” I’d appreciate something different, maybe a Penthouse spread of the month profile, or USA today sports section thrown in there. Then the whole versatility thing i.e. “I can mud wrestle in horse shit for hours, and then get cleaned up and dressed to the nines for a gourmet meal at Applebee’s.” Sarcasm, but you get the point.

  • http://brianprattwooo.blogspot.com/ brian

    hahahahaha these comments are great

    Dave – that whole ” I’m a tobacco spittin mud wrestlin bad ass that still cleans up nice like” is classic . . . they never really are what they say they are either . . there always needs to be a “for” after . . . as in . . . “I’m a hardcore football fan . . . for a chic” . . . “I’m a rough and tough mother fucker . . . for a chic” it’s a little like an extension of my “The Nerd” thing . . these girls think they’re shocking us . . and I love that the 2nd ingredient is always hotness . . “I ride bulls and arm wrestle . . . plus I’m hot!” . . “I study science and read lots of books . . and I’m also hot!”

    Steve – I was actually going to dedicated one of the things on my list to the plus sized girls that put the one miraculous head shot where they look 50 pounds lighter as their default. I didn’t because I was worried I might get written off as a chauvinist pig ( I essentially imagined Jessie Spano from Saved by the Bell reading this) Really though what do you stand to gain from this? The guy is eventually going to find out the truth. If I was bald I wouldn’t put up a bunch of pictures of myself wearing a hat.

    Mark – I love it! hahaha Originally with this I was just going to let the girls speak for themselves . . I was gonna copy and paste my favorite lines into a list . . I wish I still had some of them they were outrageous

    p.s. Dave your Eat Pray Love thing was hilarious . . really tho why would you even bother listing this? Do they want some dude to message them saying “OMG I just finished reading Eat Pray Love too!!! Loved it!! Whatcha doin this weekend ? wanna catch the new Sex and the City movie? :)”

  • Steve

    Dave,

    Another weird thing I see many women doing and I can’t really put my finger on why it just makes me feel like it’s creepy, is women that put pictures of themselves with their kids all over their profile. Why? I don’t like to have my picture out there unless it really has to be let alone pics of my children. I have never been turned on by a woman after having seen her children in person or pictures of them. It’s kinda like, “Good for you, you have a fucking kid and so do I…..why do I need to see that?”….piggy backing off of that are the ones that have to put pictures of their dogs or cats on there followed by the typical “must love animals”….Ok, fair enough, but I’m gonna put a pic of my cock on there and say, “must love dicks”…..it seems obvious, but apparently must be said.

    Lastly, the sheer numbers of women that have to put a disclaimer on their profiles about “not into drama” (who the hell is?) or “if your a player, then move along”…Oh, OK, I was just trying to get in your pants, but you caught me, your so smart and you’ve figured me out, so I had better just move along now…..has that disclaimer EVER kept a guy away? It’s like some hard core drug addict hearing, “Don’t do drugs” and suddenly stopping and getting clean on the spot.

  • Steve

    I also wanted to make another comment about what this Ali said, “I sure hope that when I begin dating again, I stay clear of men like you….any other ‘red flags’ I should look out for?”…..that right there is the quintessential revealing comment from a typical woman on these sites. They go into this with the mindset of being determined to find all the red flags from every profile never once looking far any positives. They are reading in between all the lines hell bent on finding ways to eliminate this guy based on some superficial, essentially meaningless mumbo jumbo cobbled together from bits and pieces of your entire persona. It’s inherently an impossible task, but were forced to do it because that’s the game and for anyone to think their peering into the soul or the real “you” based on a profile is naive and shallow. I’m old school and believe that the work doesn’t even begin until you are actually talking on the phone and then the real work is only when you have met in person..if you can even get that far because you red flagged the shit outta them and God only knows what ridiculous red flags half of these women even have.

  • http://hotmail Dave

    LOL, that’s great- must love dicks. I’d love to have a site where you can say whatever you want in your profile. I never really thought about it that much until recently, but honestly, I think alot of these profiles are fake, especially where I live. There’s no way real people can write this shit. I just got this beaut this morning from this girl. FYI, I told her to fuck off three weeks ago after she was trying to play around with me. There is no way she would have written this after what I said to her…. and 3 weeks later, what a joke.

    RE: Pot calling kettle perhaps , Marlena….Hey!!

    I am so sorry, I was ill and actually was in the hospital for a couple of weeks. I just logged back in for the first time since early July.

    Forgive me..PALEASSSEEE…NEXT :)

    Marlena

  • http://hotmail Dave

    To Brian,

    I’d like to start a movement to get eharmony shut down. My gripe is definitely legit, but when you get alot of other people together, the voice is stronger. I’d encourage you and others to take the eharmony “Pepsi challenge” for one month. You’ll find it to be a complete scam. Biggest tip-off into the scam is that they don’t list activity dates for their profiles. So, basically it gives them a license to send you inactive profiles, and they continue to do it. 99% of the women I was matched with were ugly, so I immediately closed the match. They aren’t breaking any laws sending you ugly women, however it becomes a scam (false advertising, etc.) when you examine what I said above. Sure enough, when I went to my closed matches page, I found that 288 of the 302 women I had closed had not closed me on their end, which means that they are inactive, or fake profiles that were sent. Something wrong with that.

  • Steve

    There actually was a paying site and i can’t remember the name of it, that recently got sued and lost after having been caught operating numerous fake profiles which they would use to manipulate into renewing subscriptions or buying a subscription after the initial, “it’s free to join” bullshit, so their out there, although I would be hesitant to see how a fake profile would be beneficial to anyone on a true free site like plenty of whales.

    I also get allot of the “I’m currently dating someone right now and want to see where it goes….good luck in your search” which initially sounds nice and genuine, but the more it happened, I started to think could they not delete their profile or say that on their profile and save me some time and wasted energy. It’s just inconsiderate. Maybe I’m analyzing this too much, but this is the first time I’ve been able to vent this crap and it feels good!!!

  • http://hotmail Dave

    Hey Steve,

    Yeah, it’s nice to have a place to vent, have been looking for this for years. I’m pretty much over on-line dating. I’ve met about 90 good looking girls (I kept count once, then kept having to add ones I had forgotten), 10 of those were hot (I moved in with one in San Diego), and at least 150 average looking ones. I’ve only been out with 3 in the past two months. One was an orthopedic surgeon who didn’t do it for me (even though I definitely could have hit it pretty good-she was all over me with affection), one was an experimental black girl who took me to her place and showed me where she was shot in college, which was weird. The third one ended up being embarassingly ugly, the type of girl you don’t want to be seen with. I’ve gotten about 4 numbers the past two weeks, but I’m not into it anymore. I just don’t have the desire. I think I may move to a bigger city in the next couple of months, and meet women in person. I’ve done well there as well, but it’s not as convenient as on-line. But I am sick of on-line.it gets old after awhile.

  • John

    Dudes, really dug this string, read every word. Am brand new to the online dating scene after 20 years out of the game, seriously, and this is saving me so much time. Laughed loud at some of your observations, anecdotes and personal peeves. Brian, you need to pack your horse and move to Burbank, Jay Leno needs your writing…. Steve, you have a classic in “must love dicks”. What a huge asset this blog is, glad I stumbled upon it.

  • Deezy

    Well…the way I see it and from the replies I’ve been reading, sounds like some people are hiding the truth. It’s not really online dating us guys are looking for. It’s more like online fucking. Living abroad makes it very hard to make friends quickly…uhhhhheemmmm fuck buddies. Thank god for things like Myspace and Facebook which everybody and their Mom has…and Moms are cool too! @Steve…I think you are thinking of ADULTFRIENDFINDER.com. I tried this to see what I could find. Just like everything else in life…there are more dudes then vaginas. I also think there are fake profiles that lure in more and more people. Great article though…but the topper was Ali…wish there were more women reading this and showing their feelings about it…what blogging is all about!

  • star also blog as anonomous

    i love eating ice cream on cold days…i love laughing loud in the movie theatre…im sometimes bitchy but i always feel bad about it… i am somewhat nerdy and not at all pretentious… i like too write poetry but i dont read it because i dont like the work of other poets… im into romance novels and corny movies but i also enjoy lod music and action films…my favorite actors are pauly shore and timothy olyphant…as you see i leave no picture so you cannot critique me on that and this is only a minor glimpse into my personality….any complaints?

  • http://hotmail dave

    Adult Friendfinder is a waste of time, unless you want to be banging a chick one day, and then have 5 guys in Zorro masks coming out of the closet to join in all of a sudden. The 10 people that are real, are very freaky. There are enough porn sites out there, and basically half the profiles are just that, or women looking for other women, which to me makes no sense. I’ve never understood the idea of lesbianism. All lesbians use strap on’s or dildos, and presumably they enjoy that sensation. So, they aren’t going to enjoy the feeling of the real thing? Not that I’m against lesbians, to each their own, but I’ve never understood craving the fake thing, and then turning up their nose like a kid being forced to eat his vegetable with the genuine article.

  • http://hotmail dave

    From xfit4life: I got her number, called it, and this old woman answered, and I hung up.

    I love to just go out and do things. Working out is a huge part of my life and I would always chose a workout over a date… a guy has to be willing to accept that. I don’t like clingy people. I am very independent and people that try to change that make me feel as if I am chocking.

  • anonymous

    p.s im single ;)

  • http://www.lukeollett.com luke

    I think all you whiners should practice on Ms. Anonymous here. I have never used an online dating site so it is hard for me to sympathize. However I would be interested in seeing a live interaction of how it goes down right here between you and this friendly lady (we assume) who has put herself up on the chopping block. So why don’t you join her and put your meat on the block as well.

  • http://hotmail dave

    We’ll, I’m not whining. I’ve had fun and some incredible stories from my on-line dating experiences, as I’ve stated. Yes, there is also a glaring ridiculous/comedic aspect of it as well, as many people have discussed. I encourage you to get on a site, post real pictures, and maybe then you can see where our perspectives derive from. Unless you’ve actually experienced it, you don’t really have any perspective.

    LOL at “we assume.” We DON’T assume, and you need to join a site and you’ll find out why.

  • http://www.lukeollett.com luke

    No disrespect intended Dave. Thanks for your comments on this blog, tip top, all of em. Want to become our official commenter for the site?

  • http://hotmail dave

    Ah, context, that’s the problem on-line. I wasn’t mad at you at all- just a light hearted suggestion. Sorry, if it didn’t come off like that. Sure, I’d love to be the offical blogger. Through my experiences across several different sites (off an on for 9 years- in between a monogamous relationship for 1 year), I definitely know about on-line dating.

  • http://brianprattwooo.blogspot.com/ brian

    well miss single anonymous girl . .

    given everything that has been said, it’s all pretty much a moot point if you’re hot . . . hotness supersedes all . . . buuutt since I have no picture to go off of, here’s what I think of what you’ve told me about yourself

    Sounds like you are a wildly free spirit, what with the eating ice cream on cold days and the laughing out loud in movie theaters. I’m not sure I could keep up with all that, although I have seen enough romantic comedies to know that you might be able to break me from my mundane and conventional ways of thinking if you are persistent. I’m not sure why you put a “but” after your part about liking romance novels and corny music, implying that one who enjoys these things normally does not like their music loud, but your are the exception. Do readers of romance novels listen to their music at a lower volume than the rest of us? Also, are “corny” and “action films” always separate from one another? Ever seen the Sylvester Stalone movie “Over the Top” where he arm wrestles in a big arm wrestling competition in order to win back custody of his son? My only guess on the Pauly Shore thing is that you are about my age, in which case you grew up on movies like Encino Man or Bio Dome or Jury Duty ( all of which I own on VHS) and his films have a sentimental value that can not be quantified. You look back on these movies with rose colored glasses that don’t allow you to objectively see how bad they really are. Except for “An Extremely Goofy Movie” of course, which has stood the test of time and is quite possibly the greatest movie ever made.

  • http://hotmail dave

    Anonymous is either 15 years-old, or a fake. Why? He/she/it doesn’t capitalize her I’s, which is a very common thing to do with people who text all the time. She also spelled anonymous wrong. Furthermore, I thought that all women would be quite familiar with “periods,” but clearly this individual has no concept of them.

  • Champ

    Brian,

    In the movie “Over The Top”, Sylvester Stalone is arm wrestling for a new semi not his son. He sold his old one so he would have enough money to buy into the tournament in which the winner got an all new truck.

  • http://brianprattwooo.blogspot.com/ brian

    lol . . thanks for setting the facts straight champ . . I was assuming no one has actually seen the movie so I could just make up my own plot line . . also I meant to say A Goofy Movie . .the original, not the stupid sequel

  • Dustin

    Yes the original Goofy Movie is obviously far superior to the sequel.. The Godfather of Disney movies

  • Sunny

    @ men blogger,

    Thanks for all the opinions,funny and I like Dave’s.Now I have to re-write my profile on Match after I read this blog!.I don’t have those ‘but’ kind of thing though ‘but’ let me explain it from my point of view on that, some girls want to be ‘opened or available’ for guys, to show that they are easy outgoing and think they will be one of the wide options. In big city like where I live is so HARD to find less weird single guys and of course the population of good looking,intelligent women is extremely high, I am so close to give up.

    I always say 100% of men in the city where I live,
    60% is gay, 20% is taken, 10% is homeless and looser and unbearable, and now we only have 10% left so we have to fight over.sign…

    btw, my profile picture is a head shot but I am not over weight and I’m pretty sure I am a good looking one (but single,and hey I read he’s just not that into you and I am sure I don’t want a straight guy to see sex and the city with me.

  • Sunny

    Little things I hate about on line dating.

    1.Top-less with six-pack.
    I know it’s hot but why show off o much? We know you work hard for it but it’s too much,make us feel like you are just a typical kinda guy and it’s kinda ehhh. We girls wanna date a guy who pay attention to us not to their packs more and also let me find out about your packs when we meet up and peek on your body.

    2.Your arm around girl/girls’s shoulder.
    It is actually kind of like ,you can tell that is a girl next to you from the hair or whatever.Are you trying to tell me that you are a good looking guy cause you have girl/girls to hang around with. Picture with your guy friends works just fine, just make sure that you look better than them though. oh that is including poor photoshop that just erase a girl’s face too.

    3.same thing with Bryan on 1 and 4.

    4.Nature pictures.
    I know you like to go out do something, skiing,traveling. but we are on dating site I want to see how you look like and I will talk to you and learn what you like to do by talking.

    5.Partner in crime.
    We all know when you date someone you will get the goods and the bads so I am so tired of 40% of guys trying to find a partner in crime.

    6.How you look doesn’t matter I care more about personality.
    But you guys will pick the hot ones in the picture to talk to first even we all know we can play trick with that.

    That is all from a girl point of view and welcome for all guys defense actually can’t wait to see what kind of attitude I will get.hahaha

  • http://hotmail dave

    @ Sunny. Ah, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side- big city dating is 100 times better than small city. I lived in Atlanta and San Diego, and had no problem meeting many quality, attractive women. I’m currently in Greensboring, North Carolina for a work assignment, and it is awful here, both on-line, and out and about. I have to severely lower my standards if I want to go out on a date here. I went out once two years ago (when I first moved) to the “happening” clubs, and saw extremely unattractive women in extremely unappealing 80′s clothing. Never went out clubbing again. The next day I went out on an on-line date with an oversexed girl who was a hick, but she acted like she was Martha Stewart and I dated her for 3 weeks. She turned out to be a ho, and I had already compromised my criteria because she was a smoker. Point is, as bad as you may think it is where you live, it’s MUCH worse in other places. You live in a big city with presumably lots of things to do. There are tons of young professional singles clubs or athletic groups probably in a big city that you should join.

    Advice on pictures:

    1. Post multiple pictures. Stay away from ones that show you with weird faces, or the hiking, running photos that are unflattering. Show full body shots, but none in bikini’s, because if you have a nice body, it will attract perverts like me. As Brian Fantana states, 60% of the time, it works all the time.

    2. The “partner in crime” thing isn’t just something that men say.

    Good luck.

  • Steve

    Just wanted to make another comment to be fair to the women here, but one day I was logging into POF (and no dezzy…. it’s not adultfriendfinder. I may be dumb, but I’m not stupid)and I saw a bunch of guys at the top of the log in screen, so I reluctantly decided to check out some other guys profiles and see what they said. I was sweating it out that maybe now the “internets” was on to me, I was gonna be gayflagged, lose my man card and that it thought I was secretly hunting for man-meat. Anyways….my point is that the guys are just as shallow, fake and rife with stupid sayings. I actually saw some dude that said, “I can dress up or look good in jeans just as well” WTF?? I thought that was only something women said. Half of the guys on there all were saying stuff like “I’ve written 3 books in my spare time and sail on the weekends when I’m not trading stocks on my wallstreet firm”…..right dude, so the women have it pretty bad too. I’m just saying.

  • http://hotmail dave

    Steve,
    If you want to check out the competition and not be “gayflagged,” just hide your profile, and then search, if that is possible. It is on match.com. Ha, ha, no women don’t have it that bad, they have their pick of the litter in almost ANY venue, anywhere in this country. Ever been to any social meeting place besides a yoga class, and seen more tuna than sausage? I was strolling out one night in La Jolla with a date, and we passed the now defunct Jack’s of La Jolla. There were at least 200 dudes outside the club, not one feline in sight, and they were all eyeing my date like she was the first piece of pussy they had ever seen in their lives. It was surreal. I’ve found ONE city where the ratios are good for men- the Washington, DC area. Even then that isn’t good for guys, because guess what? 95% of the women in Washington and Northern Virginia are butt ass ugly. The other 5% are trying to fuck Senators and other power brokers. You get tons of career minded chicks, smart, educated broads, which doesn’t exactly translate to aesthetic beauty in the slightest. Here’s the thing: Seriously, women have so much choice in so many places, that really when you do come across one on-line who seems to have her shit together- she probably doesn’t. The older she is, and still being single, it is MUCH more likely that she has issues that you won’t see on the surface.

  • http://hotmail dave

    An example of the “appearances are deceiving” girl on match.com are with like_magic. Very cute, to hot cougar in person, with a perfect body. Yeah, she even insisted on going into the grocery store to get us water for our hike so I could check out her ass in spandex. Owns her own business, is well spoken. She e-mails me two years ago tells me that I am handsome, and we go on a date to walk Torrey Pines reserve. She was weird on the date, almost fell and when I took her hand to brace her fall, she hits it away, LOL. Two years later, she is still on-line. She falls into one of many categories on match.com “I am seeking that which does not exist.”

  • anonymous

    To dave, The simple answer to your observation is one:typo and two:time pinch… indeed I DO tend to text but only because Im not technilogically ill-equipped. If you dont like my writeing you can piss off. Brian was correct in assumeing I am a free spirited person and I suppose that is why I tend to stray from what is seen as “typical female behavior”. Which is also the reason for my say ing “but” when perhaps I should have said also… My comment obviosly was not ment for you. It was meant for Mr.blogger boy (Brian) and his comments are highly appreciated…

  • anonymous

    By the way, Brian I cannot say weather or not I am your age as I do not know how old you are. Please advise…

  • anonymous

    also for dave…
    Since you so freely judge me, I believe it is appropriate to judge you as well… I assume you have no girlfriend as you are complaining about online dating sites that will go on with or without your approval… and concidering the asswhole-like personality you portray in you comments…I can see why! lighten up!…

    ps. Im not 15, Im simply carefree and open-minded…

  • http://hotmail Dave

    Dear Anonymous,

    Please take a spelling class, and then get your GED. Without even looking at a picture of you, I am already turned off big time. I don’t care who your comment was meant for, it is an open blog, and anyone has the right to comment on what is posted here. Furthermore, you should be enrolling in remedial English classes, rather than blogging on here.

  • http://hotmail Dave

    Also for anonymous,

    I don’t want a girlfriend, I like playing the field, and I’m not complaining about the sites. I’m laughing at them, and now laughing at you as well.

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